Relationship Advice
Pink Kisses answers: What do you do when he's stringing you along?
Ellie Scarborough is a bodacious bombshell locked & loaded with intelligent answers to all your questions about dating, love, sex, breakups and all things in between. Ellie launched a community in 2010 to help girls get through heartbreak, giving them tips, tools and inspiration to keep them moving forward without looking back. Now, she's lending her expertise to CultureMap, solving the problems of the 512's lovelorn, one no-BS answer at a time.
Q: I really need help with a situation. There's this guy I've been dating on and off for several years; I love him with all my heart, he is my best friend, he has always been there for me and we can just hang out for hours not really doing anything but still have a blast.
The problem is that I don't know if he feels the same. He has told me in the past that he really loves me but he has a hard time showing it. I don't know what to do — and I don't know if he is just stringing me along or if its real.
A: You're in a tough spot & I know just how you feel... but I think the answer to your situation is pretty clear. Honestly? If after years of dating this guy you still don't know how he feels, then it's time to be honest & make a decision. Sit down with him and get real about how you feel, acknowledging that you can't wait forever for a guy who says he loves you but doesn't show it.
If he still won't proclaim his undying love for you & admit that you're the only woman for him, then you have your answer loud and clear. You have to walk away. You deserve more.
I know letting go is one of the hardest things, but it's also the most crucial if you know the relationship is only holding you back. Life’s too short to waste on a guy who’s almost everything you want. I promise.
Think of this as a fabulous opportunity for you to learn to trust your gut. I believe you already know whether this guy loves you as much as you love him. Listen hard to what your gut tells you and recognize there's a whole world out there with all kinds of guys and a brilliant future waiting for you. I predict very good things.
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